Most men expect themselves to be strong and confident, but feel somehow weakened and uncertain from the inside. The male self-image has often an undercurrent of emotional inability - “I am not the man I would like to be” - , and over-responsibility –“It’s all my fault”-. At the same time male survival strategies show clear elements of fighting, flighting and freezing. This confuses.
For men the relationship to their father is central in the development of confidence, clarity and courage. Each step towards the father and at the same time separate from him on their own path, is a step towards freedom, expansion and strength. This is not always easy because the relationship to the father can be complex and layered.
Most men are afraid of their inner power, or deny its existence. This 2 day Growing Circle is an initiation, a meeting with the hunter in me, ready to kill, grounded, devoted to life. And a meeting with the fear for that power. This fear leads to survival. it keeps us in our comfort zone. In survival it’s very difficult to be respectful.
Men need a deeper understanding and integration of their violence, rage, fear and sexual energy. Then their perspective will change in the way they perceive power – both male and female power-. The movement of taking back projections opens for life.
Men need a sacred and secret place for men, in themselves and between men. A place to come home in, to be a man, in order to become a good father and mother to themselves – to love themselves, to protect and encourage themselves-.
Reconstructive work gives me deeper insight in the reality beyond my masks and belief systems. It’s intense, challenging, simple, clear and effective. Therefor it closely links to qualities men embody naturally, but sometimes deny or neglect. It takes me back to the origin, to the moment of truth and nakedness. This opens.