I wrote this on March 5th in Phoenix, the weekend before I attended the Blair Singer Ultimate Personal Development Program.
Colleen and I, or should I say, Colleen, has been sending out a newsletter for about a year. I’ve always enjoyed reading it, along with the other newsletters from our ETP peers. She’s even kept my name on it with hers, even though I haven’t contributed much in the past, Thanks Coll! She is so awesome! With that confession out of the way, I have a few thoughts I’d like to share with you today.
As many of you know, I’m partaking in the Blair Singer Mountain Leadership Experience program as part of the Shane train team this summer. I’ve always said, “Someday I’m going to climb a mountain”. It’s never been a crazy burning desire for me, but I always thought it would be a great experience and I’m certainly up for a challenge. It’s been an interesting experience so far, I’m not sure my right hip and my knees think so, but I’m working through that and I’m pretty happy with the progress.
I remember when I first heard about the Mountain Leadership Experience a couple years ago. I thought exactly like I always have, someday I think I’ll do that. I’ve said or thought that so many times in my life and for most of the times I thought that, those experiences are yet to be had.
I’m certainly not complaining. I’ve had a great life so far and been blessed with many wonderful experiences over the years. It was an article I read a while back that had me thinking. The gist of the article is that the number of opportunities we get in this life to do things or experience things in our future is nowhere near as many as we think. When we think that we can dismiss an opportunity because many more opportunities will present themselves, we could be fooling ourselves. That’s not to say that more opportunities don’t happen, it’s the fact that our lives are so busy that we could easily be busy until it’s too late.
Another one of my “someday I’m going to” things, has been to help with a school or hospital or church or something like that in some far off place in the world to help people who have so much less that we have here in Canada. When I heard Shane talking about his trip to climb Mount Kilimanjaro, and heard how wonderful the time spent with the children in the orphanage was, and thinking about that article I read, I knew that “someday” was likely now or never.
It all hit home for me on Saturday evening. I received a phone call from one of my business partners to tell me that his father, the other partner in our company, had just passed away while on holidays in Uma Arizona. I don’t know what really happened yet, but what I do know is that at only 8 years older than me, that’s way too young. Brian and I have been business partners in 2 different companies for 21 years. We had some crazy times back in the day, working crazy hours with some crazy good and fun employees. Things weren’t always rosy but we worked through everything and built a great company together. I’ve had a few partners over the years in several different ventures and he was certainly the best. I bought him out of one business years ago but we stayed partners in the other. He was more active in that business than I, I was busy with other ventures, and for a few years I really didn’t see him that much. This last year and a half I spent more time involved with our business and really enjoyed our meetings and especially his stories when he got going. I commented to Colleen a few weeks back that I had a great time at a meeting, Brian was cracking me up. We’d met a couple of days before he left on holidays to go over some details and do some planning for the future and I wished him a good holiday and “I’ll see you when you get back”.
I’m really going to miss him and his stories.
The shitty thing is that I know there were things that he wanted to do that he’d put off for “someday”.
So where are you at with putting things off?
Have you told your kids that you love them today?
Have you put off exercising because you were too busy to work out and you can always get healthy in the future?
Have you put off getting together with family and friends, “I’ll catch up with you another time”?
Have you wanted to go to a special place or event and kept putting it off?
Do you think or say “someday I’m going to …”, and fully expect that someday will come?
The next time you do any of these, please do me a favour. Exchange the word today for the word someday.
Set goals for your life, put those someday events down and start planning to turn them into memories. I don’t think we will ever regret it if instead of saying “someday I’m going to…”, we can say “I remember when I …”.
Love You Guys!